Defensive is attitude that usually given by someone to cope him/herself for at least their security. The attitude has been studied in psychoanalysis for many decades, or well-know in terms Psychoanalysis as defence-mechanism. It was first coinned by Frued and then developed by his daughter, Anna, that defence appears to cope anxious that caused by the ego.
Psychoanalysis itself defines defence mechanism is a phenomenon activity which often occurs without consciousness. In some circumtances, being defensive is sometimes hard to avoid, but it’s normal. However, although it’s believed to be normal, excessive defensive can lead to such as ‘abnormal’ attitude.
The terms of defence mechanisms in which cited by Freud and Anna is constitue one of the most fascinating distributions in the psychoanalysist field. There are more than ten types of defence mechanisms from theirs terms, but below are the most well-known types of defense people:
1. Intellectual People
Nowdays intellectualization is no longer only about those who posses IQ above avarage, higher education, or posses qualification in one or more fields, nor those who can argue so smartly or confidently. In fact, it’s simpler than that: a positive self response in a situation is more important than those mention above.
For example, a person who has been diagnosed with an illness and he/she responses its diagnosis by learning about its illness, trying to survive by living healthier, and instead of surrendering or hopeless, this attitude responses now known as type of intellectualization defence mechanism. It sounds similiar with emotional intelligence: its how we asses our emotion in a situation.
Denial is when people who have consistent problem but denying their actual condition, such as drinking or drug problems. It’s totally different from somebody who likes to get attention by foul him/herself act in a ‘drama’.
This type defence mechanisms is every so often occurs in everyday of life. When we face a bad situation, like angry with our boss or with our partner, we unconsiously/consciously to give free reign to somebody’s else — this is called a type displacement of defence mechanisms.
When the last time did you wreak your angry to somebody’s else? Just remember, that you’re just about to displace your anger.
Avoidance attitude appears when we dislike with something, and then we try to avoid anything that related with its object. For example, when we dislike with a social life style, we avoid not to join any community society, visiting family, gathering with friends, etc.
This type is believed by Freud as a sign of maturity. It’s just the opposite of displacement types, able to assess our emotion by distibute it to something more useful, like going to exercise.
6. Reality anxiety
Presumably, you’re afraid of snake. You go walk on the beach and see a sea snake near you, and you run away from it as fast as possible. This defence mechanism type is cited by Freud as reality anxiety.
Do you know anyone who do their job to realise their aspiration comes true? For example, someone who can’t make his/her dream come true to be a famous singer might going to be a lecture at singing class — this is a type of compensation defence mechanism.
Those types of defence mechanisms if it’s used accordingly its measure, then nothing need to be worried about. As we often heard people say: “Nobody is perfect” — we sometimes unable to against the human natures, unlike computer or software where we can analyse exactly according to its formula.