Alicia Keys - No One lyrics

I just want you close
Where you can stay forever
You can be sure
That it will only get better
You and me together
Through the days and nights
I dont worry cause
Everythings gonna be alright
People keep talking
They can say what they like
But all I know is everything's gonna be alright

No one no one no one
Can get in the way of what I'm feeling
No one no one no one
Can get in the way of what I feel for you
You you
Can get in the way of what I feel for you

When the rain is pouring down
And my heart is hurting
You will always be around
This I know for certain

You and me together
Through the days and nights
I dont worry cause
Everythings gonna be alright
People keep talking
They can say what they like
But all I know is everything's gonna be alright

No one no one no one
Can get in the way of what I'm feeling
No one no one no one
Can get in the way of what I feel for you
You you
Can get in the way of what I feel for you

I know some people search the world
To find something like what we have
I know people will try
Try to divide
Something so real
So till the end of time
Im telling you that

No one no one no one
Can get in the way of what I'm feeling
No one no one no one
Can get in the way of what I feel for you
oh oh oh....

DBLN, 23.27-3001109

Perception And Sensation

What do you see of the illustration on  the left? I’m sure your first answer is going to be a man with a saxophone.  However, do you realise if there is also another illustration on it? Yes! There’s a woman’s face in the shadow.  The illustration that represented called as an object and when seeing the object stimulate a perception.

This is what we call in psychology as ‘Perception’. And how can we not able to realise both of the illustration in the same time? Or perhaps there some people can easily recognise both of the illustrations in the same time? According to this, when we see the world, the visual of the world involve; depth, colour, size, shape, object recognition.  When seeing the illustration we can only think about what is similar to us –a man with the saxophone-, because this is easier to be perspective by us.  Keep in mind that our assumption or previous knowledge can lead us into false conclusion.

The perception itself is stimulated by our experience and knowledge. The object that seen by us can be manipulated our perception. Therefore the conclusion can be false since we see the object even if there is nothing wrong with the object.

So how can be our perception false?

When we see the world, the visual of our image to the object will involve such as depth, colour, size shape, object recognition. According to what has mentioned earlier, therefore a perception is not the same as reality.  Another question is asked, then how do we make sense of the world? The answer is by a sensation – will be explained presently-.

However it’s just a sample to introduce you a slight about perception. What I require to mark this time is about a perception through internet and I’m vastly interested on this subject. These days internet has been used by many people all over the world to access their needs. Such as blogging now becomes interestingly to have a society although they don’t know each other. Their communication is only through a comment. Through what they read, they believe the ‘reading’ as a real person.  They sometimes find to get further step to know each other by giving personal information, such as giving their phone numbers.  The perception to the person stimulate through the sensation when reading the person’s blog, letter, text, etc. Nevertheless, through these commotions the perception with the blog becomes a desire to ‘like or dislike’ the writer –remember they begin with reading first - if seems they have a chance to meet in person, then they perhaps would like to take further step in a certain relationship.

The phenomenon above is often happens recently, moreover people sometimes use this as a simple to obtain a partner.  Perhaps it’s difficult for us to distinguish the object whether is false or true through internet. However, some people answer this that they consider with their feeling to say it false or true, but remember the feeling of what they believe derives as of a perception. According to this can well call it as well as a sensation?  As I consider that is due to human’s sensation primarily rely on sight and hearing and their perceptions seemly derive from what they see and hear (if they call each other).

Sensation differs from perception, the structure of seeing the object entirely has diverse majors. However the sensation has five majors or in other hands it calls sensory channel, namely, sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste.

In the case phenomenon above the perception seems intertwined with the sensation. Or perhaps the stimulation of the perception derives from the sensation first –keep in mind; they begin by reading the article from the blog-.

DBLN, 23.15-271109 

Milgram's Obedience

Milgram's reseach on obedience is the most famous research in all of psychology's history. His research was established in 1961.

The videos are devided in to three parts, but I only upload the first part (or even the second part). I will write about this research furthermore presently!

For further information about  the biography and research of Milgram, please click here.

Enjoying the research,

DBLN, 21.07-211109

A P O L O G I Z E

My lovely bloggers,

I apologize (again) to deactive all the comments for all my blogs on blogspot. I put a note about this so that misconceive,  though some of you perhaps not really care about that ;), this announcement certainly directly only to you who visit my blog and pehaps intended to give a comment ;).

The comment forms will be deactived from now on and also my fb. I intended to deactive the comment forms last night but I forgot to do it, so I just approved all comments that posted this morning (Indonesian times). I'm doing this so that you know I'm not able to visit back (I know you expect me to visit back,heheh) - however keep 'SILATURAHMI' by blogwalking!

Wish you all the best!

JengSRI.Com

DBLN, 13.28-191109

I'm Going To 'Hiatus'?

I think many Indonesian people try to mess up the meanings of english words, such as: "Saya mau 'hiatus' dulu ya dari blogging" and they use the word of 'hiatus' in the punctuality words and even totally wrong. I'm not sure if they don't know how to use the grammar properly or they just make it as a fun. Perhaps they don't care at all about it and take the 'hiatus' in one word and mix them up with bahasa.

Why don't  we use a proper sentence in bahasa instead of  messing up the meanings of the words, anyway? Don't you think it is good knowledge to use a proper english or bahasa? If we unsure how to do it in properly, then why don't we learn to do it properly? (I'm very critical about this as I've been studying as to critical thinking for many years)

Well, I assume everyone has their own style to write, feel, or do something ;).

According to 'hiatus', I just want apologize if (not) visiting back your blog. Really, really, really apologize. Lately I've been very busy with my study research. After my last graduation I straight off take another study to improve my abilities as psychologist by doing a lot of research in behaviourisms.  I try to focus to its but my activities in blogging or facebook slightly disturbing my attention to keep focus while studying. So I decide to give up from blogging or facebook for a while until....whenever I'm free (I wasn't big fans of facebook or blogging beforehands anyway)

I love blogging. I love making friends from blogwalking. In addition I love studying even more. However recently I've been  difficult to focus what I'm doing, moreover I hardly to sleep!

While I'm writing this it's still very early in Dublin, but I'm going (try) to sleep after typing this as I didn't sleep last night until now. Not because I was in the computer, I was in bed but just couldn't sleep at all!

And that's all the announcement or (share) from JengSRI.Com ;).

Oooops, I forget to tell you something, recently I got several comments from anonymous (not bad comments), perhaps he/she didn't understand english because although I've put a note about the rejection to anonym identity, he/she keeps give a comment without identity.

And just want to let you know that this is one of my reasons writing my blog in english.

My Dearest .....,

DBLN, 22.37-181109

R A P U H

Detik waktu terus berjalan

Berhias gelap dan terang

Suka dan duka tangis dan tawa

Tergores bagai lukisan
Seribu mimpi berjuta sepi

Hadir bagai teman sejati

Di antara lelahnya jiwa

Dalam resah dan air mata

Kupersembahkan kepadaMu

Yang terindah dalam hidup
Meski ku rapuh dalam langkah

Kadang tak setia kepadaMu

Namun cinta dalam jiwa

Hanyalah padaMu
Maafkanlah bila hati

Tak sempurna mencintaiMu

Dalam dadaku harap hanya

DiriMu yang bertahta
Detik waktu terus berlalu

Semua berakhir padaMu

DBLN, 13.30-141109

Friendship For Reni Judhanto

I'm sure you know what friendship is, and some of you might ask; "How do I know she/he is a 'true' friend for me? We might have lots of friends but only some 'true' friends we have. When I say 'true' friends means that friends we can talk to, we can share with, Iwecan trust with, and surely who those who close with us and so on.

It's more difficult to find somebody who can trust with than find somebody who can talk with. We can find easly to talk with somebody we just met but how do we know that the person we talk with is a trustworthy person? Sometimes we find some untrustworthy  people who offered us a friendship at the start, just because they curious about us, but then they become a 'judas' after while. I'm sure that some of you probably have met people who treasenous.So how do we find the 'true' friend? This queston is similiar with the question that Mbak Reni has asked as to buddy on her posting.

Can we measure friendship?

Either Mbak reni asks this question as a 'duty' for me -because she knows that I'm doing lots of research-  or just intend to challeng me as a psychologist? ;). Well, I myself have some bad experiences in a friendship, either from the internet nor in the fact life. I avoid to repeat the same story because it's tiring and you might get bored from my story. So I will not tell it again, but if you know what I mean by some untrustworthy friends from the internet that I said earlier, then you know what I'm talking about :). I myself, if I have a bad experience with somebody distrustfull, I will definitely not be getting involve or contacting them anymore. If they apologize for what they've done to me, I will accept it. But that's all I can do. I'm just a human being, I don't want to pretend to be nice with somebody who just destroy my trust, can I? and said: "Alright, I forgive you, lets have some drink to celebrate the new friendship between us". If you can be friend to whom just betrayed you, then I would say to you: "Welldone!".

Friendship is a wonderfull thing that we have ever had in our life. Imagine if the world without friendship? By friendship we find trully a sincereness of love, by friendship we find a home  and warmthness...etc.

So to answer the question of what Mbak Reni has asked about friendship is, I would strictly speaking "A friendship cannot be measured by anything" and "We might able to measure what kind of person she/he is, by linked them to one variable to another". Takes your time to make sure you find the right person to be your bestfriend, no need to hurry. You can do this to whomever you meet. We never know whom would be the right friend for us, until we really know who they actually are, and it takes time.

That's all what I know about a friendship :). You can define it yourself because we certainly have our own perceptions as to friendship :).

Speaking about friendship, JengSRI.Com got another award from Mbak Reni, thank you indeed to Mbak Reni who has been giving awards so many times, and I really apologize if I haven't given any awards to you (or maybe once, hehe).

And here is the beautiful award from Mbak Reni;

DBLN, 12.49-111109

Cognitive II ; The Continuation Of Rama's Case

"How many parents ask their children: "How are you today?" - SAM Hanniffy, Psychologist.

Prolog 2

Rama was born in an unhappiness family. Like others unhappy marriage, they both love Rama and attempt to get Rama live with one of them. The unhappy marriage of Rama's parents overwhelmed both of the families. Their unhappiness marriage has happened since Rama was 2 year old. Since their both not happy with their marriage, argument and violence often occured front of Rama. 

He's been growing in a godly enviroment since he lives with his grandma. His childhood lifes has been thaught to a ritulistically of his grandma and its burb.

Case III; The Loving Boy - Rama is very good at making friends and most of his friends like being friends with him. He's also known as a generous boy in school and at home. Although sometimes he becomes very aggresive boy, but he rarely has trouble with his friends (i.e bullying, fighting, etc).

One day, Rama got a news that one of his very close friend has trouble with their house. He told his mom about that straight after he got the news and asked her to go look at his friend's house.

At the  age of 9, rarely a child would feel deeply to somebody elses's affliction, however, Rama has a special concern to what happens with his very close friend. When he saw his friend's house in a terrible condition -the wind destroyed half of the wall of their house- , Rama knows about his friend's poor life and by that he then asking his mom if she could help his friend by giving them money to built back the wall.

His mom thinking so much about what Rama has felt about his friend condition. Wondering how wonderfull her boy's feeling about other people, as she knows that he's been living apart away of both his parents, and in unhappiness infantile lifes.

"We give them some of our money Mom, they won't effort to build it back. You know that they have no money for that" Rama said in a pitty countanance to his mom. In curious to know deeper of what her boy's felt, she continued said: "How much money do you want to give them?". "Enough money to build back the wall?" Rama said enthusiastically.

Cognitive II

Prolog

Rama is a nine year old boy who just moved to higher grade class. He separates from his mother since he was seven. He's living with his dad and his grandma since then. Rama has a difficulty behaviour such a hyperactive. Apart of his difficulty behaviour he also uphill to concentrate at studying.

In spite of the fact he's kinda an easy going boy and easy to get along with new people. His grandma has been preserved him since the separation, he grows under a slight conservativeness precept of his grandma and the family.

Desire To Loved

The separation of Rama's parents has been built him as a free boy, rules are just a game for Rama. He dislike being at home and prefer to stay outside play with his friends. When his grandma or his dad say something he easily to ignore them and very good at talking back to people, particulary if he disagree with something. His mom often visit him and calls him once every week. He would be glarious happy when his mom reading a book for him before his bed time, his favourite book is about Islam and when his mom reading a book he would easly to get sleep. He laud his mom deeply and always show his mom off to all his friends. He's also very close with his uncle and often spent their weekends together.

In one of cartoons that disported in his room's door, there is a dispurt cartoon entile "No parents no pets". When his mom saw the disport she wondering if he knew the translation of the words, she then asked him politely: "Rama, do you understand what the meaning of these words?" showing him the english words in the cartoon , and Rama answered her mom enthusiastically: "Of course mom!"

Unspoil, Guilt, And Loving Boy

Case I; Guilt Boy - In the morning, as usually Rama kiss his mom hand before he goes to school. One day, He asked his mom if she could walk him to school. His mom said: "You'll be ok Rama, you're a big boy now". Rama's behaviour was fine, as usual, perhaps, Rama feels that the only person he can understand is only his mom. Rama got money pocket daily from his mom, and giving him a note to save some of his money that she gives to him. On that day, in the break-time of his class he's back at home to get drink (Rama's school is not far from where they live). Rama gave his mom Rp 1000 and said to her that he found that money on the road. She took the money and curiously check her wallet. She realised that she lost Rp 1000 of her wallet. In a pull face she said: "Did you steal the Rp 1000 from my wallet?", Rama's face was obvious that he did it. "But why?, haven't you got your money pocket already?, if it's not enough, why did you not just tell me?!, why did you do that?!", she stared at him in very dispointingly face and almost couldn't avoid her tears rolling down her cheek. Rama stared at her, felt in the depth-guilt, but didn't say anything to his mom. His mom went through the room and locked the room. After nearly one hour she was back to the living room, found Rama was still there. Rama looked at her mom in guilt expression, but still said nothing. His mom expected him to say sorry, until a few of hours it still didn't happen. She then decided to talk to Rama in person and closely.

Case II; Unspoil- That day, Rama was brought by his mom to go shopping and spent time together. His mom decided to bring one of his very close friend. They went to plaza with the miscelleneous of children's games, his mom dropped them to the games and by giving them money. 

Rama got a playstation 3 version as a gift from his mom. When they passed a toy shop, he asked his mom to stop. Rama and his friend looked around the shop, and when he looked at a ferrari racing car, he asked his mom if she could buy it for him. His mom shake her head discently. Rama scowled at her. His mom instantly touched his hands softly and said: "Rama, don't be like that. Mommy already bought you a gift. You have to remember that your friend (his very close friend who was with them) is poor and his dad sometimes doesn't even have money to buy food".

After Rama heard what his mom told him, amazingly his face changing and instanly sneering at his mom and said: "Ok mom, I don't want you buy me the ferarri. You've already bought me a gift anyway".

DBLN, 23.50-081109

Anxiety And Ego (Part II)

Sometimes I find that psycho-analysis is similiar with cognitive psychology in some fields.Why? While I'm writing this, I'm thinking about the relation between Anxiety and Divided Attention. Divided attention is one of other subjects of Cognitive Psychology. And when I link the cause-effect -which is also studied in Cognitive Psychology- of the anxiety and divided attention, there's a little part has been played between two of them.

I practised it to myself when I did a presentation front of the seminar . I was in the overwhelmed nervous feeling to prepare myself about many things, and thinking a lot about everything. My divided attention might have stimulated the symptom of the anxiety, and in the three majors of Freud's anxiety theory, overwhelmed  is one of the symptoms of neurotic anxiety.

According to Frued's contribution of anxiety, I don't think I need to describe what the anxiety is, as everyone of us has experiencenced with that -I think Freud said this as well on his Introductory Lecture On Psycho-Analysis's book, if so then it just my uncounciousness writing it in  the same words as probably because I've been reading a lot of his books, not because I intend to copy it, and it's forbidden anyway to copy somebody else's works ;) -. I will describe in the psychologycal undertanding of anxiety in general, however. And once again, this is my self-observation; if you feel overwhelmed, feel frightened, feel threatened, and feel as if it were about to collapse under the weight of it all. This feeling is called anxiety. And according to this, how could we feel anxious? what symptoms that stimulate the anxiety?

Indeed studying subject of anxiety is not easy! Frued, the father of psycho-analysis had been working hard for merely this major!

As I've said in my previous posting (Anxiety And Ego Part I) that Freud divided the anxiety into three majors, and I've given a slight information about the first one. The second category of anxiety is moral anxiety. This feeling means that something that punish you, the feeling of shame or guilt. The last one is neurotic anxiety - if you feel overwhelmed all the time or it's uncontrollable, and thank God that I study  psycho-analysis, otherwise I would just call this level of anxiety as a lost mind level aka has a mental problem, in other words we just call it mad ;).

Frued was right about his work in terms of anxiety that this subject is a very hard subject and could not be done in merely with a simple conclusion, moreover, his theory seems more complicated as he added the whole of subjects in psycho-analysis (i.e uncouncious, concious, ego, hysteria, and so on) globally.

Adios!

DBLN, 14.57-051109

Anxiety And Ego (part I)

We'll see how quick I am to write something that's on my mind now and posted it straight away. This blog has been unwritten for almost over a week! And for that reason I try write that something related to my study about anxiety and ego in psycho-analysis. This is a self-observation that comes from myself about the anxiety and ego in terms of Frued's theory, so I will not write it in academic style as you may not understand the terminology of the psycho-analysis words.

The blog has been invigoration me a good bit. I remember the first time I started to write something on this blog, I was in an ebullience to write about my critical thought as to women's right in Indonesia, and then I realise that my writing was a bit 'mussy' with that trivialise, and then something was wrong happened. So that not to happens again I make this blog in a slightly strick rules for the comment forms of this blog.

"Life is not easy!" that's what Frued said and I indeed agree with it, particulary since I study his works! Every single his works is such a huge subject. Well, I honestly thought beforehand that the Frued's works nothing just about his personal perceptions in psycho-analysis to his patient, but I was totally wrong! In fact he contrived it more complicated than its factual, or maybe I'm wrong by saying this. Let me give a sample of what he has described on his theory about the anxiety- though my studying isn't rudementary to against his theory-, Frued, as similiary with his other works, sometimes I find its beyond my understanding about psycho-analysis, or perhaps that  because I still bring my beliefs (i.e theology matters) in to study psycho-analysis  and mix them up in terms behaviour and belief. As well as this is remind me of what my lecture has been said as to a psychoanalytic cannot become a priest or doctor, and I wonder as Frued himself has a doctor graduation background. There we go, we find it another subject of psycho-analysis; Behaviour And Belief - it's huge subject, isn't it? ;) -  however we'll be back later about that subject in another times as this time I'm quite impatient to talk about anxiety and ego.

Frued himself has been devided anxiety in to three majors; the first major is realistic anxiety. Realistic anxiety is an anxiety that rational or intelligeble, for instance, If  I put you into a hunger tiger cage, then you probably face to realistic anxiety. According to realistic anxiety Frued also said that superior knowledge could promote the anxiety, for instance, an experience sailor will look with terror at a small cloud in the sky that seems to a passanger, because it tells him of  an approaching huricane. This is also one of the examples of realistic anxiety.

I'm getting sleepy now. It's almost 12 pm in Dublin ;). I write this straight away after I comeback from college. See, how love very much I am with my blog, struggling to have time to write on this fabalous blog ;). I'll be back for the continuation of the anxiety.

Ooops, I forget something ;). I want to ask you about a disinclination, and would be great if your answer is an honest answer ;).
Would you hate back to someone who hates you with a reason or unreason?

Adios!

DBLN, 23.39-031009

The Killers; Somebody Told Me Lyrics

Just got a break for a while refreshing my brain ;).

Enjoy!

Breaking my back just to know your name

Seventeen tracks and I've had it with this game

I'm breaking my back just to know your name

But heaven ain't close in a place like this

Anything goes but don't blink you might miss

Cause heaven ain't close in a place like this

I said heaven ain't close in a place like this

Bring it back down, bring it back down tonight

Never thought I'd let a rumor ruin my moonlight

Well somebody told me

You had a boyfriend

Who looked like a girlfriend

That I had in February of last year

It's not confidential

I've got potential

Ready? Let's roll onto something new

Taking its toll and I'm leaving without you

Cause heaven ain't close in a place like this

I said heaven ain't close in a place like this

Bring it back down, bring it back down tonight

Never thought I'd let a rumor ruin my moonlight

Well somebody told me

You had a boyfriend

Who looked like a girlfriend

That I had in February of last year

It's not confidential

I've got potential

A rushin', a rushin' around

Pace yourself from me

I said maybe baby please

But I just don't know now

When all I wanna do is try

[x3]

Somebody told me

You had a boyfriend

Who looked like a girlfriend

That I had in February of last year

It's not confidential

I've got potential

A rushin', a rushin' around