So...Where Is My New Soul mate?

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In Europe, having single status in later years is normal. Unfortunately, not in my home, Indonesia. Women who aren't married will be called 'Perawan tua' - means women in the later years.

So that what makes almost girlfriends of mine can't enjoy of being single. Like a 'tumor' that someday can kill them, the single status is a disease that must granulated from their life.

Remember the story on my previous posting? She is one of those victims of called 'perawan tua'. She told me she's running of time to be single...she needs a husband!

No matter I said to her to careful and not being rushed into a new relationship or marriage - she just can't listen - she is running of time as she's thinking she's getting old... 40 years old, actually.

My hubby advised me not to get involves in her finding the new soul mate -- according to him, that would be my friend's problem, but what kind of best friend am I if let her like that?

But yeah..he's right after all.

In fact, she's not the only people who can't enjoy with the single life. Another friend of mine who is in his trouble marriage admits that he needs a new woman...new wife, exactly.

To be honest, I have no idea how can they think of getting into new relationship so quickly after the hearth broken from the previous relationship???

I don't believe the culture makes them like that as I grew up in the same culture, but thank God, I can't think of getting a new soul mate while having trouble in my marriage...or can you?


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Oh, Online Dating

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Yey, I'm finally back again to blogging. Have been busy for a while with things in life, and one of those things are looking for a soul mate. Not soul mate for myself! its for my best friend. She's been in desperate situation since back from Indonesia... from her disorder marriage.

To relieve her stress, she finds another way to make herself better...is by finding a soul mate through dating website.

One day a guy, an American guy who fess as army and had two kids sent her a message. He had a good profile with some photos with army dress; he also described himself very well, and that caught my friend's attention to replied his message.

After few times sending message, they decided to continue in Yahoo messenger. His words was very affecting my friend's feeling -- she took it seriously.

Luckily, my friend who is in her 41 this year, did not  trust him straight away. She asked him to show himself with webcam...which he never gave.

The dating online with the guy persist until one night I asked her to give me his email address to check who he really was.

I was actually suspicious with this guy, as he seems too sweet to be true. I didn't say that there is  no sweet guy exist in this world -- my suspicion is based his avoidance of getting on cam and also his love making to my friend.

And finally, my suspicions have become real! The person has used that profile to scam people!

She contacted him as soon as I told her about who he really was. As you can guess, he didn't fess it.

Time went by.

However, my friend still try her luck looking for her soul mate through online dating website. And guess what? That profile army guy appears again - but this time he pretends that he is in different location!

And yet, he sent her message...